It is interesting to me how many couples don’t opt for a wedding planner for their big day. I understand that with today’s limited budgets and resources, it somehow seems like a sometimes unnecessary expenditure. I understand that there are far too many horror stories of less than wonderful planners who actually added to the stress and complication of the day instead of being the tower of strength and support needed. I understand that it seems, at first, like an easy task to throw what will probably be one of the biggest events of your life together on lunch breaks and weekends. I understand that you have been offered help from your mom, sister, best friend, cousin, etc. So, why then could you possibly need a planner?
First, we must look at what passes for “wedding planning” in many circles. Many planners simply are there to tell the wedding party when to walk down the aisle and when the DJ should play your special song.
However, the ideal planner goes way beyond that. Here’s some characteristics of a great planner.
- They are a competent, trustworthy individual who listens to your vision and budgetary concerns to unveil a day that reaches far beyond your expectations.
- They utilize approved vendors who have a excellent reputations for providing quality (trust me, just because someone has a website with pretty pictures doesn’t mean they know what they are doing).
- They can even save you a lot of money (actually, most of the time the savings equal or exceed the cost of a good planner) in contracting vendors and your location by talking down hidden fees and escalated prices (because the same vendor or location is sometimes three times as much if it’s for a wedding).
- They take your stress and carry it on their shoulders so you can enjoy the day you envisioned.
- They problem solve and make quick saves on the big day of by utilizing their expertise, tact and an amazing stocked “emergency kit“.
- They, when necessary, become the friendly yet firm “bad guy” when your uncle’s rsvp includes his new girlfriend and her eight kids or when grandma steps in to tell the photographer what pictures she thinks are needed.
- They make sure you actually had a chance to eat the food you spent so much time choosing (most couples never even touch their food on the wedding day).
- They listen to your concerns and desires, because they understand that it’s your wedding, not theirs.
- They have a long track record of providing excellence (look them up and read their references and reviews)
These are just a few things to consider. I think one of the main misconceptions is that wedding planners are only for celebrity weddings or weddings with big budgets. Nothing could be further from the truth. A good wedding planner will be able to work with any budget and help you stay on budget and on task. Wedding planners are less of a luxury item and more of a necessity for busy brides and grooms to help keep the planning process moving along smoothly.
Another misconception is that we have this very glamorous job. Sure, we get to go to fun hotels, attend tastings and be at fabulous events on the weekends but we are working and have a job to make sure the wedding goes perfectly. We are not eating and drinking and enjoying like the guests; we are working, and my team and I take that very seriously.
Oh, and we don’t wear heels like in the movie The Wedding Planner. We are on our feet 10+ hours and I wear the most comfortable shoes I can find (that are appropriate).
Need some support in making sure your day is fabulous? Contact me.